ADD or the kid is being a kid #musings from my Comcast trip

So today I was at Comcast returning some cable boxes from my previous account -  so they take them off my bill - how dare they charge me 80 dollars for boxes ...so as we were on the line some small kid with the roundest glasses I think he was theree years walks in with his mum and from outside he was talking or sayign some gibberish ba ba ba  and I hear the mum say - Sssshhhhh....be quiet Johny...so they stand behind me and the kid could not sit still... he was up and down the place - BEING A KID...So all along the mum kept picking him up grabbing his arm and saying Johnie you need to stand right here you are not going swimming with grandma if you keep this up... there was a point he even yelped owww your hurting my bone.Lol then he says "Mommy I wan to pee." and mama replied "Well you did not plan well you will have to wait"..Three year old did I mention..."You did not plan well."....so as I left the two ladies infront of me one said "poor kid cant help it he has a handicap...and I almost jump up and down in rage A HANDICAP AND CANT HELP IT!!!!He is just trying to be a kid...I think I have blogged about this over and over again and I will blog some more until I have my own kids -hopefully not in America - and maybe I can change my stance on this....Then in church...a little kid lets out a little ba ba ba ba giggle giggle giggle you should see the daggers that are thrown by the usher there is one even who went to stand at the door those ones of do you want to take him outside...for petes sake!!Call  it ADD - the medic in me will agree yes it is a condition however the African in me will say (in a British accent) piss off!!! and the let the kid be a kid...

"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."  - Marilyn Monroe

Race card or sheer luck??

So today I got my first pull over by a cop well actually second the first one we were late for a weddign with two lovely ladies we were all dressed up and took a left on a no left turn and bam got a written warning...I think she forgave us coz she saw enyewe these ladies are all dolled up wacha niwaachie wasianze kuharibu mascara nma machozee......so today I was coming home from work in the wee hours of the morning..a little yawn yawn here and there and punde si punde I hear a siren behind me.My immediate instinct was to pull over ..in my head am thinking ok sir you can pass and go on and catch some bad guy breakign the law...shock on me the bad guy was moi...he pulled on the side right behind me...heh si all the sleep I had vanished in a flash...talk of fight or flight response...I start thinking ok insurance check, registration check, inspection sticker check...coz we sure as heck know he was not pullign me over to ask for my phone number there had to be something but what??...so he gets out of his car.he is black.I heave a sigh of relief...tells me maam i pulled you over coz your sticker at the back has expired have you renewed it?Penny: yes I did May 31st.Officer:Okay give me your license and registration.I break into a panic darn it I registered online and did not print out the registration or get that darn sticker for the back...so he run the DL - his blue lights blaring as mornign commuters in Salem look in pity and sheer curiosity oh poor girl what happened??So he came back Officer :I see you do not have your registration either.Penny(sheepish) no I did it online and changed adresses maybe it went o my old adress??(smile smile)...Officer: Okay I will give you a warning but I want you to go to the nearest RMV and get it done it would have cost you thirty five for driving without it and thrity five for no sticker.He said this with a look of "I got you my black sister." So he let me go and I gave him "Thank you my black brother - Aluta Continua.." So I drove home...heaved a sigh of relief - not exactly the best way to start my week but lucky and glad it was not serious...Maybe the race card was in my favor or maybe I am  just being paranoid....

Of J and B

Okay so today I have lots and lots to blog about it has been a while ...so I was watching the BET awards last weekend or was ot the weekedn before and I only managed to watch half of it but I got to catch the end when they were givign the best video...so Jay Z and Beyonce were both up for nomination...I was so impressed by this and it got me thinking how they are both so talented and compliment each other...It made me think a little deeper about relationships and going into a relationship....Someone said you go into a relationship to find your other half who completes you but after seeign Jay z and B I think the contrary is true.You need to be a whole person so that you can give your all to that person and that relationship/ unionIf you are not whole you will always be trying to get the other person to fill that other half of you the way YOU want it to be filled and in so doign you end up changing that person for your benefit - does it make sense , no?...I think so many times people get caught in the whole notion I cant function without this person am not complete etc etc...however I am here to tell you you can function without the other person and you are complete.I mean I look at Jay and B these are two people who are almost at the Zenith of their careers that the other ceases to be competition but just a compliment to the other...I dunno if am makign sense it was just a little aha moment I had when they were both called and they were having a make shift fight over who would win...and you can argue this so many ways - the other persons strenghts are my weaknesses etc etc like I said it was just a little light bulb...

Feminist , no?

Okay so I started reading fifty shades of grey a couple of weeks back and can you imagine I stopped midway...not that it was boring actually quite the contrary to  quote a friends face book status "That book can do a  number on ones loins.." lol...so anyway short of the long call me nun call me boring call me feminist, hypocritical but I found it a bit to raunchy aii even kinky is putting it mildly...that did not even bug me as much as the way the submissive is made to come off as just that...submissive... I felt the things that she was allowing to get done to her all to fulfill the dominants sexual fetishes like really get a doll Mr Grey...you dont need a woman of flesh and a soul to do the things you are makign her do...yeeah my workmate who gave me the book is on teh second one - fifty shades darker reckons part 2 is much better than part one - that he gets to open up and actually says he loves her so maybe I need to get off my high horse and get to the end of it...well maybe its my conscious doing a number on me...and then on Monday when I took Jessy to do he rhair I was watchign CNN some lady in where was that Iraq?Afghanistan who was shot nine time sby Taliban for apparent "adultery" I was like wait hold up we are in 2012 is this a clip from 800 AD??That a woman is being murdered for going outside the ndoa...I was stark raving mad that women are still getting the back bench being treated as less than men AAAAAAAAAAAAAGH screams screams...Gosh am so glad I learnt from when I was young there are no glass ceilings that cannot be shattered your gender is not directly related to who are where you can go.I remember it was such a joy to race in swimming with the boys and win the races in class compete with Stephen M and Peter for number one two and three in exams....or maybe I may be more feministic than I think....On other news I am reading a great book - yeah after ditchign fifty shades..Its called House of stone - two families torn apart in war torn Zimbabwe I love love love it maybe its coz I have two very near and dear Zimbabwean friends....okay over and out..

Its just boob...

So this is an oooold blog post I started and of course dint finish...I just saw the title and I have laughed wondering mmmh what the heck was I going to write about...its just boob lol lol...oooh now I remember I was in a plane...mmh where was I from or going to oh yes I was comign back from a friends wedding in Cali last month and I got an aisle seat - yes the dreaded aisle seat so the lady infront of me she also was on the aisle - bless her heart travelling with two toddlers - one was an infant who was wailing like there was no tommorrow...So sweet mummy acts like she was at a Bus stop in Kiriamiti in Central Province and whips out her boob and starts breast feeding...I being from "Africa" and grown up knowing duh thats what you do when baby cries whip out the Tuzo and give baby....what was hilarious was the guy who was in the next aisle seat when this happened his facial expression was hilarious his eyes widened and shifted gaze so fast as though he had seen a ghost dude its just boob lol....quite acting like y'all dont know...his gaze kept shifting kwanza it was the time for take off so he had to "turn his electronic device off" and had nowhere to look but shift his gaze yonder north sijui he had beads of sweat dripping down his head as all we heard was slurp slurp slurp as the little one got her drink on....So I personally do not have an issue with breast feeding in public there is a hilarious joke we crack in the house - its just like a fart - we were made to let gas out like duh where is it supposed to go....So back to the breastfeeding in public all in favor pls stand up...yes i agree at least have some decency at least a ka leso hey but when baby needs milk baby gets milk...Got Beef??